I am bothered with her past. I know too many details - and I'll share some with you to perhaps gain some understanding.
I've been with my girlfriend Bente since 17th of september, 2 days after she turned 14 years old.
Now you might want to know what this has got to do with anything... well continue reading then.
On 15th of september, her birthday, she barely knew me (a mere online contact, had a chance to meet her that day but that didn't happen)...
That night, she was seduced by 2 19-year old guys to have threesome on MSN.
They came to pick her up, met her mum and then took her to their place and well... did all the things you don't want to imagine of a 14-year old with 2 19-year old pedophiles.
When she turned thirteen, which was a year before that happened, apperantly she has had worse experiences. Her first boyfriend sexually abused her. Soon after that she was forced by 4 Maroccans to suck them off or they'd kill her. So she did that...
In total, she has had a total of about 10 one-night-stands in roughly a year - with atleast 50% 18+-guys.
Now the age of consent is 16 in Holland... So it's illegal for any adult (18+er) to have sex with anyone underneath the age of consent.
Since the 17th of september, the moment she's been with me - I've taken her out of that world, educated her about what happened and I know she'll never go there - but the knowledge I have still bugs me to hell, and I want to do something about it.
Her mother doesn't know about all this stuff.
Nor do the police know of all the illegal sexual activities (which are by law - rape).
Now I face a terrible dillema.
I'm more or less traumatized with what I know and I keep on having these vivid images of her in her past-time activities, and I want to do something about it.
I've been making up a plan lately.
A plan to expose the 3 (2 of the threesome, 1 of the one-nightstands) 19-year olds to the community network of our town.
Everybody disgusts pedophiles, and well, my girlfriend can't be completely blamed for her naïevity, as she's under the age of consent and those guys were doing things forbidden by law. They will have to face with humiliation and hopefully worse if that happens - but then atleast justice is served.
Also I'd want to tell her mom about what she hasn't been seeing.
She even met the 2 guys before they went of with her daughter for the night to have a threesome.
But I'm still morally in doubt.
My girlfriend, well... she'll probably go through shit when people find out, especially her ignorant mother.
Also, at this moment the situation is basically: she wants to forget her shitty past with me. But I want to put things right - see justice.
Now since I made her a bit more wise she thinks it were just decisions - mistakes - that she made in the past, but I think else, I understand why she made the decisions but I wouldn't dare put the blame on her.
Her parents were in a divorce, she wasn't used to the new school she just got into.
Basically it's her parents fault. That why I wish to tell them what has happened.
But the biggest fellon is not the parents nor the kid, but the pedophiles - and that's who I want to see justified.
I know who they are, I can find them on the community and I know names and have photos.
What do you people think of this situation? What would you guys do in my place? Any recommendations, etc?
Edited by Kazyumi, 02 February 2007 - 02:03 PM.