Ra3 connection fail code 1-2

Ive been trying to play ra3 with my girlfriend. We live in the same house, but the campaign doesnt have a lan option. We are able to get all the way to where it says Start in the game. We obviously have a connection, but when i hit start the game gives me a message that either a connection is attempting to start or one has failed and gives me the above error code. I tried using windscribe but the result has been the same.

Here is the error message I am recieving

make sure that you are following these instructions but you should try out who has to use windscribe 

another thing you can try is using a ipv4 supporting vpn like windscrice free vpn https://windscribe.c...n/?auth_required you can create an account and download it there make sure that you have activated your windscribe account. if you have the programm installed you should have a little windscribe window on your desktop, in the upper left corner you should see 3 stripes click that and navigate through there until you find a switch labeled Ipv6 on default its turned on but we want to turn it off (your pc will have to restart after that) after your pc restarts the windscribe program should autostart (you can just minimize or close it if you dont want to play) but if you want to play you will do following: 1. make sure that NOTHING is draining data in the background (you will get 10gb of data for free every month that should be more than enough even if you play active) 2. activate windscribe and wait until its connected as soon as its connected you can check again if anything is draining data 3. launch the game 4. in the game main menu you go to options 5. change your online and lan ip to the second available option (or the one that does not match any of your ips you might have been using with hamachi or something) 6. connect to genreals online (note it can take a few trys until the game will let you connect) 7. start a match with your mate and see if its works 8. if not try to change host and change who is using windscribe ( for example you use windscribe and he dont but it wont load so he uses windscribe and you dont) 9. in some cases it can change who needs to use it over time sometmes even both players needs it while ( me and the boys always need to circle the windscrib using one if we play but only if we are more than 2 people so connections can be weird sometimes) i hope you can understand me