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#1 Calamity_Jones

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Posted 03 September 2007 - 10:35 AM

I know it's quite natural to get peeved with your parents once in a while, but mine are driving me to fits of loathing recently. All they do, all the time, is find fault in me and make sure I fucking know about it. My mother, the moody, miserable, complaining old hag of a woman that she is, will not stop telling me what to do with myself. Lines such as "you have to be told because you don't know how to do things yourself" and other such crap. My dad is more or less the same, with his perpetually grim outlook on everything. The bright side of life, it seems, is lost on him.

The thing that pisses me off the most is their utter incapability to understand that I am not boring/bored/wasting my life/have no friends/don't talk to people/don't like fresh air/sunlight etc (all accusations I have received). Nothing is good enough for them. Anything I achieve is overshadowed by everything that I do not. They do not, most of all, understand my mild obsession with gaming. My mother once came out with the legendary line of not being able to distinguish reality from games. I, of course, exploded and ripped her to pieces.

They don't understand that it's a social activity (albeit not so much so as actually interacting with people face to face, but I'd be hard pressed to, say, interact with Boomer (who's Swedish) face to face. Indeed, I have met people in many countries through the use of my computer, computers connect the world in ways that have not been possible before. They, of course, don't have a clue and will not listen.

My way of dealing with them is just blanking them. I've had enough of trying to explain myself. It works wonders too, they just get depressed and I waltz around the house, bursting with malevolent glee! I must, however, get out of the house!

Does anyone else get this kind of shit from their parents?

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Posted 03 September 2007 - 12:18 PM

how old are you Calamity?

because if your under 18/19 i can understand....if your older, then.....

well. yeah i sometimes get that shit from my parents, but i balance it out with a social life aswell. Gaming is only done on week nights and in the day time on weekends.
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Posted 03 September 2007 - 12:42 PM

I've never had this problem with my mom, cause she's always been busy workin her ass off and getting screwed over by the government trying to support me and herself and my dad doesn't even live with us.

It's actually my sisters that I get this crap with, especially my slightly older sister who rags on me and just about everyone, I go to say the store for her to get something and if I make one little mistake she'll make a huge deal out of it. She's always putting me down and shit, she's driving fuckin insane, no wonder my sanity is slowly leaving me :/ .
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Posted 03 September 2007 - 05:51 PM

mm, parents and family worrying about your future. nothing new about that. naturally its different from family to family.

in my family i would say we don't really give a rats ass about what you do education-wise, because we know that education is really just a bunch of numbers and grades on paper which doesn't really reflect your own skills. they are more worried though about social "networking", as thats most likely the best way for you to learn and get work within topics of interest. building up a spiderweb of people that can help you or get help from you is basically how the world works on a smaller and bigger scale.

anyway, thats what i basically feel this might be about. naturally everyone feels that parents and family is annoying as hell in the long run, and most people move out(nudge nudge wink wink) to get away from them for a few years at least.


my father is mostly worried that since I'm not drinking that i will not have as much fun as he and not build as big a network as he did. he started doing politician-stuff about my age so i don't worry too much though. i've heard indirectly that my grandfather worries that I'm educating myself into unemployment, but he worries about how to turn on his television so I'm not too bothered.

it usually helps to get out of the house for a few years, moving around and finding new people to get familiar with, getting out of the old down-trodden path of your home area.

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#5 Calamity_Jones

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Posted 03 September 2007 - 09:01 PM

Oh, I'm moving out at the end of next year, It's just a matter of surviving another year :p

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Posted 03 September 2007 - 11:56 PM

Mine aren't so direct about it... but even still, my mom doesn't seem to care one way or another and my dad is more on the fence but doesn't say much about it any more. Mine are fine with me working a crappy full-time job to get a new car and fund school...

However, remember one thing: your parents put up with your shit for free. They own you. That makes more sense when you move out.

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Posted 04 September 2007 - 09:46 PM

Parents don't really have the right to judge you based on your social or recreational habits or choices, tho.

At first my mum didn't understand how MSN worked, or how I could be talking to dozens of people simultaneously, who lived in other countries.

She did however, understand I didn't have many friends at school, so she wasn't so shocked that I would do those things.


Parents do have a habit of being overly critical and a little insensitive. But so what if you don't go out much, and instead play some videogames? Not everyone likes the same bloody things...

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Posted 05 September 2007 - 12:11 AM

Yeah, well, that's what parents do. You just have to learn to live with it... or they give up and deal with what you do.

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Posted 06 September 2007 - 04:45 PM

Pfft. Whenever my parents (or one of them anyways) would give me any shit about random stuff, I'd just laugh my ass off at their attempts. Made them lose all hope one day and they don't bother me anymore :p

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Posted 17 September 2007 - 08:37 PM

My mum complains about me being on the computer too much, but the only reason that irritates me is that if I've been on an hour she calls it three. I do spend more time then I should on the thing I suppose, but I'm in good shape and I have a good amount of friends at my school so I don't care much. I love my dad very much, the only subject we fight about is my academics, namely my grades odd way of not being as good as my two older siblings. Really, my dad's oversupportive. If I scribble on a piece of paper or wack my 'cello with the bow he'll tell me it's great art...

Both my parents had unusual childhoods tho so they don't much comment on my social habits. We get along very well for the most part.
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Posted 18 September 2007 - 07:26 PM

Mine are good most of the time, but my entire paternal side seems to have a prejudice against anything that isn't white, Presbyterian, British, intelligent, etc. etc. Mind you, I suppose it's a prerequisite, growing up in Northern Ireland. Thankfully my maternal side is fairly liberal and accepting of most things, including Irish people and Catholics.
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Posted 20 September 2007 - 02:28 AM

The thing that pisses me off the most is their utter incapability to understand that I am not boring/bored/wasting my life/have no friends/don't talk to people/don't like fresh air/sunlight etc (all accusations I have received).


I have recieved many of the same accusations...except my parents seem to do it in subtle ways, which is almost worse because I can't actually start a direct argument with them.

They don't seem to understand human will at all.

If I wanted to go outside, I would go outside, if I wanted to hang out with friends, I would hang out with friends, and if Im playing on the computer, it doesn't mean I'm bored and have nothing to do with myself...it means I enjoy playing on the fucking computer!

The thing that really pisses me off is that I DO hang out with friends, and I DO play sports. Its just that they seem to think they know what I enjoy more then I do, and seem to think that relaxing alone for a day is a waste of a day (even though it is r eally the best kind of day). If I spend a day playing on the computer, whcih hardly ever happens anymore due to there constant nagging, they seem to pity me that I didn't find something better to do.

Well guess what...I enjoy playing video games....the point of life (to a certain extent anyways) is to enjoy life! They should realize that Im not a mental invalid who doesn't know what to do with myself unless they suggest something!

Ah well, 1 more year till im off to university and I get to do whatever the hell i want :D

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 02:54 PM

I have almost the same problem with parents, but I do necessary activities like dish-washing or vacuum cleaning, so they haven't many piffles about comp. :lol:

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 09:34 PM

It's what parents do. At the end of the day, you get to jump ship, go to university and/or get a job, meet ladies, have kids, and terrorise them when it's your turn.

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Posted 20 September 2007 - 09:48 PM

Do you people also experience that you want do something, but are a bit affraid to do it because it goes against what your parents (or other people) expect you to do? For example, I wouldn't quickly go running outside on a random evening (though I sometimes feel like it) because the last few years i've mostly been sitting inside at the computer, etc. (not always of course, i'm don't have fresh-air-and-daylight-phobia) and that's what people expect me to do. i'm trying to go out more btw
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Posted 21 September 2007 - 02:08 AM

My older brother hardly spent an evening in the house the last few years (he's at University now) so my parents don't care too much, 'long as I'm home by 8. Can't wait until I have a car though...
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Posted 21 September 2007 - 07:47 PM

By 8? Seriously?

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Posted 21 September 2007 - 08:19 PM

On a school night. My parents don't really care how late I'm out during the summer or on weekends.
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Posted 21 September 2007 - 11:50 PM

Parents are good for two things; critisism and reminding you why you moved out. Both go hand in hand, and both work in unison. They try protect you, and push you at the same time, it is merely the most effectual way of, as they say, making you fly to coop. It is merely natural.

Sure, sometimes they can be complete cunts, and make life a living hell, pack you off to the recruits for a year and forget about you, but do not forget; their generation dealt with things differently. Main reason why my family hates me, they wanted me to carry on the family tradition of serving in the army, but after 6 months I was thrown out for merely speaking my mind. It is the way their programmed, protect their kin and make sure they follow in their footsteps to ensure the bloodline or a warped vision of life in my case. Do not hold them in such angst ridden anamosity, for their actions are based on old principles. Just let them wallow and try follow the path upon which you choose. Or indeed, die trying. Better to say you've lived your own life rather than play along to the tune of the flute.

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Posted 23 September 2007 - 10:30 PM

Very true. I moved out as soon as I could.

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