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#1 Hostile


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Posted 23 October 2009 - 05:54 AM

I got as far as the title before I had to go out for a smoke and then the floodgates let loose. I found out my dad died four hours ago. He was Stanley Joseph Edwards and was going to celebrate his 60th birthday January 18th 2010.

He was a tall 6'1 a strapping handsome guy. He was the man who explained the atom to me when I was three and was pleased when I explained it back to him in my own words.

He was tough as nails, skilled in the art of kicking ass, and yet had poetry printed in books. He was my father. He was not perfect but he was a collection of stories about his life I'll never know how true they might have been.

He did once say to me, "the best punch in the face I ever got was from a one armed man."

I will miss him. He knew so much about everything. Even ready for some advice on a good traditional recipe I might be cooking.

I talked to him last Tuesday after I moved my fiance's stuff here. He talked to Daisy (my fiance) for some time on the phone and told her he had a gift for her when we come to see him. He promised not to tell until we showed up. He died Friday. No one knew he died because we all kept calling and no answer. He lived in another state from us. A friend of ours drove to his place and found mail over flowing.

That was a bad sign. So my brother drove up 3-4 hours tonight to open the door to the smell of death. He was dead for almost a week. We decided to have him cremated for that reason.

The man who cuts his lawn showed up and my brother said "we will no longer be needing your services."

Next Friday should be the funeral. Losing a parent is something that one cannot explain the pain. I am hurting bad right now. I just wanted to catch this moment in my life so I may reflect upon it in the future as I reflect on all my posts at Revora.

My dad died.

The irony of the story about the attached image is the fact that my mother and father were married 17 years and after that they didn't see each other for 25 years. They saw each other because I called Mom and said Dad is dieing, see him before he goes. So she did.

This is the only picture of the them in 25 years being in the same place.

Do you want to know how I feel right now? My dad died...

You have no idea how much that hurts...

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 09:00 AM

That's sad. I'm sorry for your loss. Looks like he was a nice guy.
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Posted 23 October 2009 - 09:36 AM

I'm really sorry to hear this, losing one of your parents is one of the worst things in life.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 09:53 AM

I dread the day i have to face the same thing. Thank you for sharing this awful moment. Writing down overwhelming shit for later processing is a smart thing to do. I sincierly hope that someone is helping you to be occupied for the days to come. Best of luck managing the boggy road ahead. It becomes drier after a while.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 09:59 AM

I'm sorry for your loss, Eric.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 10:01 AM

I'm sorry for your great loss :thumbsdownsmiley: , This is one of worst things happend in everyone life.

May he rest in peace

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 10:28 AM

I'm sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace.
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Posted 23 October 2009 - 01:08 PM

My sincere condolences and sympathies, Hostile. I echo 2play's comments.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 01:21 PM

I just woke up, and of course I run to Revora. I have woke up to realize the reality of my situation. I will have to deal with the funeral house today as well. Something I'm not looking forward to. I've had my morning cry session but not the full blown version that I know is coming in a few days.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 02:52 PM

I'm so sorry :(
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Posted 23 October 2009 - 04:01 PM

Shit man, I'm so sorry for you. I cannot even imagine how you feel, the loss of your dad at this age must be so cruel...
My sincere condolences and I wish you and your family a lot of strength for the time to come.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 04:04 PM

Sorry for your loss, he sounded like a great man.
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Posted 23 October 2009 - 04:42 PM

Sorry for the loss.


But relax.You'll get over it.I bet he wouldn't want to see you sad,I guess he wanted to see you strong.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 04:52 PM

Sorry to hear that, Eric.

Like Sul, I dread the day too, though hopefully that won't be for another 30-40 years.

But on a side note, congrats on the engagement. I remember you referring to a girlfriend a few months ago, so I take it that the engagement is fairly recent.
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Posted 23 October 2009 - 05:58 PM

It's very sad, sorry for your loss.

I can't understand how is possible that nobody found he's dead for one week. :closedeyes:

So don't forget on him, but don't end broken (don't get drunk because of this) and be more with your fiance.
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Posted 23 October 2009 - 09:15 PM

Sorry to hear about your loss, Eric.

May he rest in peace.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 09:27 PM

This is terrible, my deepest condolences Eric. I wish you good luck and hope you find strength for the foreseeable future.

I would also like to say congratulations for the engagement.

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Posted 23 October 2009 - 11:44 PM

I offer my condolences as well, Eric (I hope you don't mind me calling you so). I know reading messages online can't mean much, but we're here all the same.


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Posted 23 October 2009 - 11:53 PM

If there is one thing I have learnt from family deaths, is that time is a great healer.

My sympathies to you. Very sorry to hear that.
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Posted 24 October 2009 - 05:58 AM

The topics where being insensitive doesn't pay off. Bah... jokes are over-rated.

In the Sahara, there is tradition to honor the fallen guardians of friends to remind us that they would have never existed without their mothers and fathers. My next glass of milk to honor Stanley Joseph Edwards, my word on that one.


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