Here is my connection test log
Using server nntest.cnc-online.net:30000
Bound to local port 56437
Bound to local alternate port 56438
Resolving hostname 'nntest.cnc-online.net'...
Resolved server host to be '22.214.171.124'
Sending client INIT from port 56437 to nntest.cnc-online.net:30000
Received server INIT 
Our public address is 126.96.36.199:56437
Sending client INIT2  from port 56438 to nntest.cnc-online.net:30000
Received server INIT2 
Our alternate public address is 188.8.131.52:56438
Sending cient START  from port 56438 to nntest.cnc-online.net:30000
Received server START 
Server extra port is 40000
Sending client PING  from port 56437 to nntest.cnc-online.net:40000
Received server PING(2) 
Received server PING(3) 
Received server PING(4) 
Received 3 pings from nntest.cnc-online.net:40000.
NAT negotiation works with your router and connection.
==> You do not have to use port forwarding.
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I can log into c&c online without any trouble but when I try to actually start a game with another player (my other computer trying to play RA3 with my wife)
I have an idea that the issue is that I am using the c&c ultimate collection and the other computer is using just RA3 though I did install it through origin. I have installed the new launchers on my computer. I have disabled origin in game and disabled origin keeping things up to date.
Not sure what to try next.